When you are innocent (of child abuse), real problems develop. Those of you who have been burglarized know that it is not the "things" they took that does the most harm. It is that they take your peace of mind. The thief shatters your trust in society. Someone did it. Probably someone you know. Likely someone you trust. You begin to live in a new hateful, mind numbing, inner peace destroying reality.
Compared to having your children taken when you are innocent, burglary is a walk in the park. Having a "true finding" is devastating. Finding out that you have no constitutional rights, that the system is "protecting you and your children" with secrecy is maddening.
This cannot happen in America, people think. It cannot happen to me. I am a good parent.
Dealing with a system (even if not individuals) jaded by the horrors of the guilty, you are one more guilty perp maintaining your innocence. And the only thing the system hates worse than a child abuser is a child abuser who won't admit it.
No horror movie ever prepared you for this. It obliterates the mirage of what you thought being an American meant. It changes you and scars you forever.